THE SHOES REALLY DO MATTER

One of my first mentors in business as well as life, and a man I greatly admired, taught me early on that you can usually judge the character of a person by the condition of the shoes she or he wears.  Reflecting back on my own successes and failures, and the shoes that were a part of each, that advice has proved right more than wrong and I still find it useful and practical advice, even today.  

 Welcome to my mildly irreverent views on business, travel, living and working in Asia and life in general. And remember, don't show up for life in the wrong pair of shoes!    


 (Photo above- Beijing shoe store window display 2006   See, even in China they get it!)

28 September 2007

“Give a man a fish; you have fed him for today. Teach a man to fish; and you have fed him for a lifetime”

Dear Respectful.
Warm greetings to you and your family in the name of God. I introduce my self to you with all faith, trust and hope you will understand to assist us not to betray us at the end. I was 20 Years old boy when my father died 2 years ago in a gold mine in Republic of Serria Leone. He was into legal gold minning,he has succeded in saving the sum of Ten million, five hundred thousand United State Dollars.USD ($10.500,000)left in fixed /suspense account in one of the prime bank here in Abidjan during his Business on Gold, before he went on a trip to Republic of Cote D'Ivoire West Africa near by country to our country to save his money for security reasons because of the political problem in our country.

Since the death of our father our step mother has been trying to kill us, she has been given us a lot of problem and she have collected every thing from us and now she still need the deposit certificate to claim this fund but I can't give this to her because is all we have to leave with. I am 22 years while my sister Lora is 20 years old of age we still need to go to school and have a better education and start a new life. Our step mother knows that our dad has such money but she don't know where exactly the fund is been deposited. Right now we are hiding in a refugee camp in Ivory Coast. Our father used my name 'Joakim Thorelli' as the next of kin to the deposited fund. And we ran away with the deposit document, so nobody have access to the money now except me and my younger sister Lora.

We need help from you to asist us to transfer this money to your country for investment and who will be sincere to invite us to his country without cheating us or doing bad to us on my arrival with my sister, we are willing to offer you 15% of the total sum after the transfer of this fund into your account in overseas. Please mail me urgently to know your stands before looking for help elsewhere, you're the first person we are contacting in this isseu.
Please permit me to ask, can you honestly help us as your own people and can we completely trust you? We are kindly requesting for this vital information from you if you agreed to assist us out of our problem:

(1) Your full name (2) Your Personal telephone number and fax. I will also want you to tell me more about yourself in your reply to my letter to you. Thank you for your signify interest to assist me and my sister. Hoping to hear from you soon. May God bless you and preserve our friendship in good faith.

Best regards
Joakim Thorelli and sister,
(Lora)


Dear Joakim and Lora;

It was indeed a surprise to receive your mail and, after carefully reading it over and over I must say I am saddened to hear of your plight and my sincere and deepest condolences to you for the loss of your father, if that is indeed what I understood you to say. The matter with your stepmother is of course what seems to be of the utmost importance at this time.

Differences of opinion, tension, passive aggressive behaviors and even hostility are not uncommon in family situations such as the one you and Lora find yourselves in now. I am of no doubt that the strain of your father’s untimely death has played a large role in the worsening of your relationship with your stepmother, but I do believe she means well, despite that it might appear otherwise at times. Since it seems you have good access to the internet, my advice to you is to direct your self to asktheinternettherapist.com where you will find many qualified professionals who can start you, Lora and your stepmom on a path of healing and recovery. There is also a wonderful book called “Making Friends with your Stepchildren” by Rosemary Wells that might make a lovely gift for your stepmother and could even be a nice bridge to renewing your relationship with her. I believe you can find it at Amazon.com. I am sure your departed father, God bless his soul, would sleep more peacefully in his grave knowing that his family was again united in heart and spirit.

I am also very pleased to read that you and Lora have plans to continue your education. Joakim, I did notice that most respectable employers could look on your sentence structure, spelling and word usage not so favorably. Using your father’s legacy to improve your education seems much more prudent than pursuing risky investment options in my country. I believe your stepmother would concur with me on that matter.

If however you persevere in your interest to invest the money there are many far more knowledgeable than me on how to do this. Since you are currently staying in a refugee camp, one very good idea would be to contact the UN Office of the High Commissioner for Refugees. I believe they would be able to provide invaluable assistance for many of your current dilemmas. I think the director’s name is Mr. António Guterres and, while I do not have his email address, I am sure you can find it since you were able to find mine. Another idea worth your noble consideration is to contact the Swedish Embassy nearest you, as Thorelli is a well respected family name in Sweden and they should be most eager to help I am sure on behalf of your departed ancestors.

My dear Joakim, thank you for your trust in me to help you through this troubling time and I hope my kind advice in some small way leaves you with hope. It is perhaps indeed a miracle of god that you found me first. Please do stay in touch.

Warm regards,

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